What is the best way to balance a family with a full-time career outside the home? There is no one-size-fits-all answer. If you are wondering how to best manage work and kids, consider these suggestions as a starting point:
Get some support. A support network of family, friends and co-workers is invaluable if you work full-time and have a family to care for. This support network can serve as a sounding board when you need advice, or provide a listening ear when you need to talk about a problem.
Boundaries are your friend. Yes, it’s OK to say no. Without boundaries, you run the risk of being stretched too thin, both at home and at the office. Take an honest assessment of your responsibilities and don’t be afraid to pass on things that are not essential and will leave you feeling that your plate is too full.
Make some “me” time. Just as it’s OK to say no, it’s OK to set some aside time to nurture yourself. If you’re not rested and recharged physically and emotionally, you won’t be able to give 100 percent to your spouse, kids and job. Remember that support network? Ask a neighbor or friend to watch the kids so you can get a little time for yourself.
Develop a regular routine. Having reliable rituals can help reduce chaos, especially around the house. Start getting the kids ready for bed at the same time every night. Have the kids help you with getting their school clothes set out and their backpacks ready to make getting ready in the morning a little easier. Packing lunches at night can also save time in the morning.
Get rid of guilt. If you’re balancing kids and work, you’re doing what many parents need to do in order to provide for their family. Guilty feelings can interfere with your job as a parent and your job outside the home. Go easier on yourself and that will help you stay focused on your goals at home and work.